Couples Corner
Disagreements will always be a part of all relationships, but if you approach disagreements in the right way, both you and your partner can come out as winners. The article "How To Fight So You Both Win" says that you should come into a disagreement well prepared and with a plan. Here are a few of the ideas the article suggests to help you and your partner address disagreements.
1. Zip it - It is important for your partner to feel heard and you should avoid interrupting him or her with your response until you have given him or her the opportunity to be heard.
2. "I feel _____ when _____ because _____" - It is important to own your own feelings and point of view. One way to do this is with I statements; for example, "I feel angry when you are late for dinner because it is important to me that you are on time."
3. Take a time out - It is okay to ask your spouse for a time out if things get too heated. It is also important to set a time to resume because if you don't set a time you may never get back to discussing the issue at hand.
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